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Brief Moments of Awareness- Small Steps to a Larger  Understanding of YOUR ADHD

9/4/2015

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I was clearing my desk one day this week to get ready for an ADHD coaching session- just moving a couple of files, notes, and various objects. I then gave myself 2 or 3 minutes to breathe, and “follow” my breath by lightly noting its movement. As I brought myself back to my upcoming coaching session and logged onto Skype, I became aware that I was perusing my desk again. I saw a thermometer (“Had a slight fever last week, still on the desk, put it away”), a flash drive (“Hmmm what’s on it? Oh yeah, I backed up some ADHD coaching files- gotta label it”), my portable phone charger (“Is that charged up? Hmm better plug it in”). This all happened in 20-30 seconds or so.

Every one of those objects briefly captured my attention. I was scanning visually and not intentionally, feeling the pull from every item towards an action or thought process. Classic ADHD brain activity- the distractibility, the open  invitation to impulsivity, how it runs in the background most of the time… I “saw” the process, the pull from each distraction, and didn’t follow the distractions. This was a win, and worth noting and remembering.

Distractions and the pull toward them- we experience this phenomenon so much that we usually don’t notice the mechanism. In those brief moments- when we enable ourselves to come to an awareness of this process- that really inform us and set the stage for skillful change. I wasn’t directly asking myself “What am I paying attention to?”-  I was simply taking a moment, breathing, not focusing on any one thing, and the sequence became transparent.

Bottom line- it’s powerful work for those with ADHD to practice being aware of what we’re paying attention to- without any particular focus. We should do it throughout the day, many times a day. A mere minute can be enough. Just breathe, keep a relaxed focus on the breath, give yourself the gift of that non-directed time, and see what happens. Every brief moment of awareness like this is another step along the path of understanding our own ADHD, and away from false beliefs that rule us and actions that don’t serve us well.

The skill of paying attention is crucial. Without it, executive functioning skills are harder to learn, sustain, and revise as we go. Like any skill, this type of paying attention can be learned and put into regular practice.

Small steps like this are big wins, and that’s just what we need to learn to enhance our calm and clarity, and proceed with skillful intent. This doesn’t necessarily mean sitting on a pillow, meditating for long stretches of time (though don't rule that out;-). It DOES mean that we need to stop the galloping horses in our minds now and then, and take note of what happens, and this is how.

You're welcome to contact me about this skill, and how to acquire it.


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Andrew D
9/9/2015 11:28:49 pm

Wow! This was so well stated. Our world, our lives are so filled with endless distractions and you make excellent points about how our awareness of them can begin to "set the stage for skillful change". I particularly loved your statement "...give yourself the gift of that non-directed time...". It feels like this gift is actually the gaining of a sense of freedom and relief! It's a subtle reminder that WE are the ones in the driver's seat. Thanks, Tom, for your meaningful insights.
P.S. Thanks for the reminder to breathe--I find that when I do it, it works! Go figure!

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Angelique J
9/9/2015 11:46:28 pm

Such clarity! You make it sound so simple (thank you!) I feel encouraged. How you presented it was so understandable—you honed in on it and came back out with an overview. You broke it down and synthesized what’s an elusive part of many moments in my day. In other words, you gave great cliff notes on potential cluster f--ks!

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